# Dealing With Stanley
We all know that guy, maybe his name is Stanley, maybe its Eric, or Stewart – but we all know *that guy*. He’s the guy who will talk to you on and on about something you just don’t care about. Maybe its not at work, maybe its a friend of a friend. You go out with the guys, and we have to bring that one anti-social guy that one dude in your group is friends with (for some unknown reason) and all he wants to do is talk about World of Warcraft, and girls are icky, and for some reason it becomes the group’s mission to get this guy some pussy. Maybe you’re walking through the mall and someone stops you to sell you something, or an insurance salesman shows up at your door and tries to force some life insurance down your throat, or you walk on a car lot because that Camaro looks sick as hell but here comes the overweight, way too pushy used-car salesman. **I have nicknamed this person Stanley.** You see, all of these people fit into a single archetype, a mold. They all share a similar quality in that they will continue to talk to you about shit in which you have absolutely zero interest. If they were to ask how much you cared about \[specific subject], you would tell them that you gave precisely not a single damn. You wish you were this awesome But fear not, for I have come up with a solution for dealing with Stanley! **Walk Away.** That’s it. Just walk away. When the nerdy guy comes up to your group and starts over compensating for his normally anti-social behavior, walk off. It may seem mean to do to that guy who just wants to have friends, but you can’t let him cock block you like that. 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Just turn and walk off. He’ll get over it, and maybe even thank you for not wasting his time test driving cars, asking about prices, and then giving him a fake number and leaving never to return (I swear I’ve never done that…). Is a girl you aren’t sleeping with, and have zero interest in sleeping with, talking your ear off about something that happened at work, or what her boyfriend did the other day that was so cute, or how Jenny is such a bitch? *Just walk away.* The likely result is that the person will turn to the next nearest thing with a pulse, and continue on with their story seamlessly. The absolute worst case scenario, as far as I can tell, is that the person will get mad at you and never talk to you again – which is still a win for you because you didn’t want to talk to them anyway. I used to work with a girl who was a solid 326lbs at least, and she would always try and get flirty with me. For the most part I just ignored her, but when work required I’d talk to her. So one day I’m running something past my secretary before heading off to take a piss, and she comes meandering down the hall (lumbering down the hall, honestly) and looks up at me like some kind of sad, fat, caricature of a woman. I finish up with my secretary and start down the hall (most of which she is consuming with her stomach’s considerable girth). I reach her, and start to squeeze past and we have this exchange: *Moby Dick: “Hey \[Alpha]….” :’( :’(*\ \&#xNAN;*Alpha: “Excuse me.”*\ \&#xNAN;*Moby Dick: “I’m… headed out of here…”*\ \&#xNAN;*Alpha: “Going home early?”*\ \&#xNAN;*Moby Dick: “Going home… Forever…”*\ \&#xNAN;*Alpha: “Quitting?”*\ \&#xNAN;*Moby Dick: “Yeah.. I’m just… I love the people here but… I’m just not hap-”*\ \&#xNAN;*Alpha: “K have a good one.”*\ \&#xNAN;*Moby Dick: “Oh.. yeah… you too.. hey, whats your number? Maybe we can get together some time?”*\ -*Backturn. Walk away.-* So what is she doing today? I have no idea. Did she kill herself because I just walked away? Probably not. And even if she did take it that hard, which no one does, I really had to pee. We all know the backturn is a powerful game concept that, when employed properly, amplifies attraction. What we fail to realize is that the backturn works because it telegraphs value. *Hard*. It shows that you’re too busy/important/indifferent to be bothered with whatever they’re trying to bother you with. When you use the backturn to diffuse attraction, instead of amplify it, it can be a powerful and fast acting social coagulant that will put an end to uncomfortable situations quick, fast, and in a hurry. So next time you get corned by a Stanley and they just wont shut up or leave you alone, remember this post and execute the backturn like a champ.